It’s okay to have no girlfriend. You don’t need to feel bad for not having a girlfriend in your life. If there were a championship in the world, & there was a crown for the prize, that in this world who invents the stupidest things. We guys rank in first there. Because we create all the pointless attachments, dumb bullshit & add all our ego, pride into it. We add our self-worth & self-esteem into it. We make it far too complicated & finally we screw ourselves. We don’t just deserve the award, we created it for ourselves & we are abusing ourselves.
Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend in Your Life?
It can be because of 3 or 4 reasons.
1. You couldn’t get/woo one.
2. You don’t want one. Okay.
3. Or maybe you didn’t focus on it.
The fact is that You couldn’t woo one. You try but can’t woo one. But instead, you find out 5 more deep meanings behind it due to which you invent shame in yourself. After seeing someone’s gf, you are feeling unhappy. Again you see one’s gf, again you are sad. In your opinion what is a girlfriend? You are seeing a girl as if it has become a commodity. It does not even love. It is not that you want a support system in your life. It’s not mature thinking. You know, you should think like, ‘I need companionship.’
But no, what you’re doing is, ‘I want a girlfriend, a tag, a label.’ It is an awful race. You think that everyone has got a girlfriend, they are cool. It is just a point of showing off your “being cool” factor.
Now let’s come to the point directly.
What’s the point?
Girlfriend ?? What is a Girlfriend?
Moron !! Is it jewelry or something… We are talking about a girl, a human being. No one focuses on that. You don’t think about what kind of Girlfriend I should get? Ask this question to yourself if you want the answer.
Ask yourself, ‘What kind of person will I bring into my life?’
‘Whom I will give the control of my life, emotional control of my life, giving my precious time, in fact too much of it.’ Yes, you are giving her the right. The right to hurt you emotionally. They can. I am not saying that they will. But it’s a kind of agreement in that relationship. You give them a dangerous power, that if they want, they can break your relationship. They can crush & throw away your heart & feelings.
You get it. Do you?
So for just 5 seconds, you should not think that I shouldn’t get a girlfriend. But think if you enter into a relationship, or date a person, you should try to think about what kind of person, should it be. Because you are giving them a kind of power over half of your life, your time, your effort, and a lot of things.
You are giving them control. This person can destroy your whole day. This person can harm your mental state. They can give you a lot of stress & suffering.
Right. Because now you don’t even know who the person truly is because you are single. So, they are a sort of vacuum.
I am not saying that all the girls do that.
I am not saying that at all. Girls should think about the same thing. I would assume so, Right.
Because it’s a matter of commonsense. Because if you are making someone your life partner then you should at least think for some time.
You just want a girl !!!! Because you are the kind of person who wants to win the race. It’s a kind of being qualifying for being a man.
What is the Symbol of a Man?
Bullshiting around, Smoking Even getting drunk, screwing around with girls, Typing college bullshit, stupidity. Is it? This is stupid teenage thinking, from age 20 to 28 in the minds of people in our generation especially.
What is a man?
He who drinks flirts around, hangs out. We are four friends, We often even enter into fights. We even fool around with girls. We don’t even respect the girls. On the phone we even show off before our friends.” Why did you call ?”. Don’t we?
What do you get from it?
Even the guy who shows off on his phone later says sorry to the girl at night. Trust me if the girl kicks you away once, for nearly 5 months, your life will shatter into pieces.
This style of showing off as a Hero that we guys have. What’s the point of it?
Ask yourself this question. I want a girlfriend, but why do you want a girlfriend? Just reason with yourself. Just give one reason to yourself.
For sex, is it? ok. For s*x, let’s evaluate it.
Most people will answer this. That I want to have s*x. This is the biggest answer of most people. That I want to indulge in s*x with a girl. Whenever I want.
Now, let’s weigh it out. Your need is s*x. That is nearly the most of it. okay.
What do you get after that?
A person who can control your entire life, kind of to that extent that even you will fail to do. By control, it doesn’t mean to direct your life. That you will do this or do that, this will be your hairstyle, etc. But they will have the same power that a movie director has to direct the movie the way they want it to. Your life will be directed the same way. Now how that person will use that power depends on that person. But you should understand that both of the things don’t have any justification at all. Both the sides don’t balance out each other. That I want sex, so, I will give my life for her.
Let’s Go to the Second Point:
You want a girlfriend because when you go to the mall, you should have a girl at your side. Because you have an inferiority complex when you go to the mall & you see couples. These are the small things that you covet.
When you see a girl with her boyfriend in malls, having dinners, in hotels, in restaurants, you feel jealous because you don’t have a girl in your life.
You Have Created a picture in Your Mind
Okay, bro? What does that mean?
What do you want in life? You see an image from afar. You don’t even know 1% of their lives. That is an image.
Just like a picture. You just want to enter into that picture. Because the picture looks beautiful from afar. Bro, be realistic and practical in your life to some extent, then you will accept that looks are deceptive. All that glitters is not gold.
Do you get it, my brother?
I am giving you great advice. You should see all that is going on around you & move forward in life. This nuisance of running behind things is foolish.
But you will say, ‘My friend has a girlfriend.’ Just try to visualize this in long term. Do you even see that how many boys are crying? how many have been dumped by girls? They are in depression and stress. They can’t even work. Their lives get destroyed. They lose their jobs, their colleges. You have already heard these stories. Why don’t you consider those images, my brother? Why are you so biased on one side? That I feel sad when I see couples in the evening. I feel that I should also have a girlfriend. All about sex.
It’s all about s*x. You are creating all your layers around it. I want a lot of things, but I want to have s*x mainly.
s*x is right. S*x drives us, it is a biological urge. But while asking for s*x, don’t screw your own life. What you are doing is that you are getting horny about it. You are getting irrational about it. You are not thinking straight, you work because of that lust.
You become an animal, in a sense. If someone maps down your intelligence to see what you employ in your mind, they will see you have the same level of intelligence as that of a puppy.
What Happens When a girl Smiles?
That’s what I mean. You are not even using your brain. You are thinking that any girl will do. Any girl who smiles, you fall for her. You have become stupid. There is no sense in what you are doing. That is why our friends suggest that stay away from her. Still, we don’t get it. Because she replies.
The girl who is merely replying to you, replying to your fucking text. She seems like a goddess on that level & we nearly go mad.
My brother, try to understand some things in life. I can not make you feel some things.
No one can make you feel some things like
that you feel the urge of sex.
But what I say will enter your mind, that is why I am focusing there. Because I can’t tell you how to control that urge and how to evaluate it. Trust me, it won’t decrease. Let’s be fucking honest. The want of having sex is a biological urge. There is no pill in this world, there is no procedure and what exists will harm your health. So, I won’t recommend it. Naturally, you can’t do it.
But use your brain. You can focus on the goals in your life. You can think long-term & you can even avert a disaster.