“ Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form. ”― Rumi
Have you ever found yourself staring at your phone or laptop, mindlessly checking social media, or going down an internet rabbit hole when you’re supposed to be doing something else? So have I and it is procrastination.
Hello! I am Siddheswar Jana. I am addicted to information related to the mind. In this blog, I’ll clarify why procrastination is so hard to overcome, as well as how to stop putting off and better manage your time by following a step-by-step guide. But first, you must know how procrastination takes place.
What Is Procrastination?
The term ‘procrastination’ originates from the Latin word ‘Proceastinare’, which represents ‘to avoid until tomorrow.’ But it’s not simply about putting off something you want to accomplish. The phrase ‘procrastination’ is also taken from the ancient Greek word “to do something opposite to our better judgment.’
Hence, Procrastination is defined as delaying or postponing something unnecessarily and voluntarily, despite knowing that it will have negative consequences.
“It’s self-hurt,” said Dr. Piers Steel at the University of Calgary.
Why We Do Procrastinate?
There is a myth about procrastination and laziness. We are often confused but they are not the same thing.
Procrastination is an intentional act in which you choose to do something other than the task you know you should be doing. Laziness, on the other hand, means apathy, inactivity, and a lack of desire to act.
The root cause of procrastinating is our inability to regulate our negative or difficult feelings as Dr. Tim Pychyl, professor of psychology, said in his research. He found that Procrastination is an emotion regulation problem, not a time management
“We weren’t designed to think ahead into the further future because we
needed to focus on providing for ourselves in the here and now,” said psychologist
Dr. Hal Hershfield.
Procrastination is the best example of present bias, which is our innate trait to prefer immediate needs above long-term ones.
In the article of NY Times, we find:
In a 2013 study, Dr. Pychyl and Dr. Sirois found that procrastination can be understood as “the primacy of short-term mood repair … over the longer-term pursuit of intended actions.” Put simply, procrastination is about being more focused on “the immediate urgency of managing negative moods” than getting on with the task, Dr. Sirois said.NYTimes
How to Deal With Procrastination-Inducing Emotions:
You must understand that procrastination is simply a means of coping with negative emotions.
Here are the most crucial tips for dealing with procrastination:
Self-compassion means embracing yourself as you would care for a friend who is going through a difficult situation. Self-compassion is not based on social comparisons or one’s sense of personal accomplishment; rather, acknowledging and accepting one’s imperfections can contribute to personal growth and improvement. In research, it has shown that people who showed self-compassion are less likely to procrastinate.
Accept and Move On:
Forgiveness involves accepting the mistakes, admitting what has happened, and being willing to move on with your life without thinking about things that you can’t change. In a study, the researchers found that the students who forgave for procrastinating while studying for the first exam were less likely to procrastinate for their next exams.
Instead of using self-criticism and hurting yourself emotionally, try exploring your minds, feelings, and reactions the next time you make a mistake, fail to fulfill a goal, or do not perform as expected.
Why is going on in my mind now?
How is my body reacting?
Why am I feeling this way right now?
And so on.
Pen a To-do List:
Make a schedule. Jot down Make a list of all the things you need to get done. Your list must have short-term goals as well as long-term goals. And when you will see your task list will help to make a proper plan to meet your goals without procrastinating.
Break the Task:
Break your big tasks into short and more manageable parts. You will feel less stressed and less likely to procrastinate as a result of this. Chronic procrastinator often says that they wait for the last minute to complete their task and make the task unachievable. So, break the tasks to bring broad changes in your life.
Reward to Yourself:
Give yourself a treat when you accomplish any specific tasks. Just promise yourself that when it’s done, you’ll get to do something you enjoy. Make use of your excitement to get you through the discomfort. For example, you can say that if I complete two Mathematics chapters, I will treat myself to 1 plate of biryani this night.
Make Your Temptation More Inconvenient:
Once a great thinker said that if you can not change yourself then change the situation in favor of you. For instance, if you are constantly checking social media then delete the apps or give yourself a difficult password, not 5 digits but 13.
One Task at a Time:
When you multitask, it makes you think that you’re doing a lot, but it prevents you from completing tasks fast and effectively. Your focus should be on one thing at a time, and you should give it your best. This will also allow you to stop getting overwhelmed by your busy plan and also avoid you from procrastinating.
Final thought: If you want to bring changes in your life then take full responsibility for your life. To avoid procrastination you need great patience and strong belief in yourself.
The most beautiful things in life are not things. They’re people and places and memories and pictures. They’re feelings and moments and smiles and laughter.Anonymous
As I look around and think about “life,” I feel obliged to share with you some of the most beautiful things I have noticed. I’ll show you the most beautiful things in life are free so you don’t make the mistake of putting trivial things for the most important.
So, Here Are Some Most Beautiful Things in Life to Adore though There Are a Lot More :
#1 Being in Love :
Being in love is the best feeling in life. It includes wishing for your partner’s happiness, admiring the person for who he or she is, and feeling inspired to improve yourself. It’s more than just a physical attraction between you when you’re in love. It’s a feeling of joy at the prospect of two separate and free people opting to spend time together. When you’re in love, you’re motivated to be sympathetic, kind, and loving to the person you care about and also others. I feel blessed to have had such an experience in my life.
#2 Tears of joy! :
Yes, ‘happy tears’ are the most amazing thing in life.
It’s the apex of joy. It offers joy to those who see it.
Summer raindrops penetrated by sunbeams are like tears of joy.
Joyful tears are made up of 1% water and 99 percent happiness.
It’s great to witness it on your close one.
My mother poured happy tears after I had first earned 500 hundred rupees by giving tuition to my students, and it was the finest day of my life. Then I found that ‘Tears of Joy’ are the most amazing thing in life. I hope you all get it at some point in your lives.
#3 Music :
Music can lift a person’s moods, facilitate them, or soothe and rest them. It also helps us to feel virtual, if not all, of the emotions we experience throughout our life.
Sometimes I feel that music is the medicine for all the problems.
My existence would be empty without music and harmonies. When I’m having a bad day, I listen to various songs that help me to calm, de-stress and also motivate me. Music is love.
Some of my favorite songs :
1. Tujhse Naraz Nahin Zindagi Song by Anup Ghoshal
2. Coffee Houser Sei Addata Aaj Aar Nei Song by Manna Dey
3. Tolo Chinno Bina Song by Asha Bhosle
4. Hamen Tumse Pyar Kitna
Song by Kishore Kumar
5. Still I want to be here from 13 Reason Why
The list goes on…….
#4 Sunset :
Watching the sunset and enjoying its tranquility is another most lovely thing in life. The sky with all of its charming qualities is my favorite thing in the world, and if I could spend my entire day watching the way it changes in a million different ways, I wouldn’t hesitate to.
While sunsets mark the end of the day, they’ve also come to symbolize peace, harmony, and the promise of fresh beginnings. Sunsets serve as a wonderful reminder to take time to relax and refresh our hearts and brains at the end of each day.
#5 Family :
Without family our life is meaningless. The word “family” itself is so significant that it implies a sense of security in having people around you with whom you can always rely on, with whom you can always discuss your worries, with whom you can always play, and with whom you can always cheer your mood.
To me, family is equivalent to love. Someone who is always there for me, at both good and bad moments, throughout my life. Encouragement, comfort, guidance, values, morals, faith, understanding, hope, and many other things come to me when I think of family. These things are highly crucial to me because they make me happy on the inside, regardless of what is going on in my life outside of them.
#6 Friendships :
Having nice friends is beneficial to your well-being. Friends can assist you in both celebrating good moments and giving support during difficult times. Friendship minimizes loneliness and allows you to provide much-needed companionship. Additionally, friends can:
- Boost your sense of objective of your life and belonging.
- Motivate you to change or ignore toxic lifestyle and addictions such as excessive drinking and inertness, etc.
#7 Blue Sky :
My next favorite thing in the world is the sky, blue sky, with all of its fascinating facets, I wouldn’t hesitate to spend an entire day watching it transform in a thousand multiple ways. Blue skies are pleasing to the eye and comforting to the soul, and they add to the universe’s total beauty. These blue skies not only demonstrate the actual beauty of pure blue skies while also inspire and instill a sense of hope.
#8 Book :
Reading books can expand your thoughts and take you to places – on earth and in space. It can increase your visualisation ability. If you are reader, you do not need any friend – book becomes your best friend. It stops you from getting bored. It helps you understand world better.
But the beautiful thing about reading books is that you can sleep soundly at night…I love going to sleep while reading a book and I generally have a very sound sleep. No tossing and turning in the bed waiting for sleep to takeover !!!
In the words of George Martin, “A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies, the man who never reads lives only one”
Book which you must read atleast once :
1. Think Like a Monk by Jay Shetty
2. You Can Win by Shiv Khera
3. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
The list goes on…..
What are the most beautiful things in life in your opinion? Comment below.
the 23-year-old me
This is I, your permanent life partner till the end of the breath. I know you are working on improving yourself. You are trying your best to uplift yourself from where you are now. Sometimes the situation or the people don’t act according to you. As a result, it strucks you there and you just waste your time. What is wrong with you is that you are not focussing on your goal sincerely. You should know that why you are here. Just remember that(your goal) and keep flourishing. Everything is temporary here. Don’t attach yourself too much to things. So, keep patience and try to nurture yourself. Always remember your goals. Believe in yourself.
I Love You