Self-discipline Is the Key to Achieve Your Goal: How to Be Master on It?


Self-discipline is the master key to every success, and the lack of self-discipline is the major cause of failures, frustrations, underachievement, and unhappiness in life. It is nothing but self-control in mind, that is, how to control your mind and how to create discipline in mind -it’s the action followed by good thoughts and a positive state of mind.

You can keep your success energetic and escalating for the long-term if you’re disciplined and determined under all circumstances and situations. People, situations, and circumstances mightn’t favor you at some time but always find new ways to go ahead and achieve your goals.

While driving the vehicles on the roads, we obey traffic rules and regulations, for these reasons, we make ourselves safe and many others also; here we maintain discipline on the road. Without discipline, we can’t do any work properly because of confusion, disbelief, looking for shortcuts, excuses, complaining and blaming attitudes, and lots of negative factors that appear through different thoughts in mind.

Hence, self-discipline is the key.


An American Philosopher and Psychologist William James once said,

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.”

Control your mind; never let your mind control you. Don’t accept the thoughts which guide you in the wrong directions. Controlling the mind is very difficult, but it is possible when you keep on doing things repetitively until you make a habit. We see in many people’s lives that changing habits are much more difficult, and this can be possible when a person has strong desires to achieve something-a strong determination is essential to accept new ideas.

A disciplined mindset is always understandable and influenced by its purposes; it can understand many things like situations, people, and environments.

If you fail to control your mind, you’ll fail to control your life. Our mind carries thousands of thoughts, good or bad, positive or negative, and those thoughts which are connected with our emotions become our predominant thoughts, and they importantly manage our lives in the same directions as they are. When we change our thoughts, we change the direction of our lives. Never obey your mind if it guides you in the wrong direction.

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Control your mind with positive thoughts; never let your mind control you through negative thoughts. You can control your mind if you know the direction of your life through clear visions, fixed goals, and consistent actions. If you don’t fix up any specific goal in your mind, you do your actions aimlessly, and you get results accordingly.


Without clear visions and goals, people don’t take pains and they don’t like to go through certain challenges to achieve their goals even though their goals are very essential and primary to their lives as they anticipate.

Your destination may be far away from you, but if it is clear and you make it your goal, then it’s easy to travel the long distance overcoming lots of setbacks or difficulties on the way. You may take a long time to reach your goal, but you must have positive aspirations for your future achievements. Always anticipate positive outcomes in the future and do the best in the present day.

Confusion, disbelief, sadness, depression, and hopelessness come into mind if you don’t have clear visions and goals, and you don’t know what you are going to do in life.

Never do the things that come into your mind erratically, but do the things that are right and good to your life. For example: when a student sets his goal for his exams to score good marks for a healthy career ahead, and his mind says to watch some program or movie on television for 2-4 hours a day and he obeys his mind and withdraws focus from his goal and concentrate his mind on other things like watching TV, gossiping with friends, playing/watching games and visiting frequently to his relatives and friends home for casual gatherings, and many more activities that aren’t part of his goal, and even these activities don’t inspire the person towards his goals.

What will happen then? The student is spending time here and there unproductively without managing time and that is the major cause of failures or delaying the process of achievements. Your future is always in your hand; now decide, do you want to create it or break it. Now you can make either a good decision or a bad one, it depends on your future aspirations and how you want to see your life ahead.


Henry Emerson Fosdick once said,

“No steam or gas drives anything until it is confined. No life ever grows great until it is focused, dedicated, disciplined.”

Self-discipline is an important factor in the process of success; without which you can’t build a grand success and also you may not hold your present success with growth and advancements for a long time. This is nothing but a discipline in mind and you do the right things at right time.

If you’re disciplined, your thinking has clarity and purity on certain things, and you are convinced.

Discipline manages your mind well to deliver the right commands of thoughts into actions; we do the right things when we get positive commands from our minds to lead a life as we want. Those people who succeed to manage their minds and stay in harmony are the true winners of their life, and they achieve more successes in their lifetime.


What is Self-control, how to control your mind and direct it in the right direction in life? Mind says many things to do, either positives or negatives, but what do you decide to do? Never obey your mind if it guides into the wrong directions; only obey your mind when it guides into the right directions.

Don’t let your mind control you. You should always take control of your mind in the manner you take care of a newborn baby. Always you’ll have careful attention to the baby, and you observe every activity that the baby does. Like your mind is, take care of your mind with the intention that how better results you want from your mind. Your actions follow your predominant thoughts, and all thoughts reside within the mind, and you are the creator of your thoughts.

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If you’re thinking about long-term goals and working on them, and the purposes of the results of your goals are helpful towards building a healthy society, you attain peace of mind and inner joy.

Positive thoughts are strong and directional; they help you to grow and prosper, and can survive in your mind for the long term to create a meaningful life; these kinds of thoughts create the same kinds of thought empire in your mind. If you want to win in life, adopt more positive thoughts and disregard all negative thoughts in any way. A strong and disciplined mind holds more positive thoughts and tries to cultivate more of the same thoughts to strengthen their empire.

Rewrite Your Life Story: Set The New Destination

“First, say to yourself what you would be, and then do what you have to do.” Epictetus


“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself”

George Bernard Shaw

Along with writing and speaking your dreams, start watching the movies of your life in mind repeatedly that you’ve written-your life script. Write your life script and create your life in the same way, because you’re the creator of your own life, nobody else is responsible for your life. Build your life with your choices and likings. Visualize your dreams and possess them in your mind in such a manner that you’ve already achieved your goals. With a winning mindset, you can achieve many goals in life.

Your life is a whiteboard, it’s empty now, it’s blank now, what do you want to write there; now start writing the contents of your future life, what you want to become in life, where do you want to reach in life, and what is your goal, and what do you want to achieve in life-ask the questions to yourself and get clarity.

The question arises, how many of us write our dreams on paper daily? Many times we hesitate to write it, because we mostly say, we know what we want to achieve, that’s the reason, we skip many important steps in the process of success and later we forget our dreams. Write your life script, the life story that you want to see in the future.


“You can never plan the future by the past.”

Edmund Burke

Create your own life’s movie of your choices that you want and love. Your life is a movie; you’re the director, producer, scriptwriter, and all leading role players in the movie. Take all leading responsibilities to manage the movie; you’re always responsible for your own life, never blame others.

Nothing is impossible once you believe; to strengthen your beliefs, write and speak your goals, and start working to achieve them.

Write your own life story; your life story is what you want and what you love, and your life story must motivate you. Write the story of your upcoming life that you want to bring into your life; enter into the imaginary world that you believe and love. Once you believe in your imaginations, you start doing the things and you start getting the results. If your life story doesn’t motivate you, you can’t work for it to achieve it. In life, those things that motivate you are the real goals of your life, you do the same things and you also attain the same objectives with your positive efforts.

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Write the complete story of your life with present thoughts, perceptions, and beliefs, and you can change it at any time; you can update it from time to time ahead with the advancement of your thoughts. With your growing thoughts from day to day ahead, you can change your life story to higher levels as your thoughts and beliefs reach. But from today, you just write your life story with your present thoughts for your upcoming life.


The situations, people in your surroundings, circumstances are always in charge, and you don’t have complete control over the outside people, circumstances, and situations to change them while you have complete control of yourself-the thoughts you think of, the images you hold in your mind, the attitude you show to others, and the actions you do in your daily life to get the desired outcomes.

If you don’t know where you are going, you are going nowhere, and you’ll spend your time here and there doing different activities-finally you’ll say, I didn’t achieve anything big in life. Every big achievement is the result of your big dreams; if you can think big you can achieve big. The first task is to think big and then you can achieve big things ahead.

If you don’t write your life story, somebody will write it without your knowledge – and somebody may be anybody and you don’t know today who they are, and you have to accept it on time, and with this, you may have to accept many people’s choices from time to time, if you’ve no choices in your life. You start building a powerful life once you agree to your belief system as the truth to your life.

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Only 5 percent of people have clear and written goals, they know clearly where they are going; hence, write your life stories with certain goal plans and get started to act on them.

Winston Churchill once said:

“You create your universe as you go along.”

You aren’t what other people think and speak about you, you’re the person that you think and believe in; hence, you’re the unique personality in the world. When you put yourself down by underestimating your personality and start comparing yourself with others without giving value to yourself, you place others at the top putting your values downwards. With this perception, you can’t grow in life.


You start growing in life when you love your life, when you see yourself at the top, when you improve your excellence and when you feel yourself nner. Every winner feels differently and their activities are different from average people who don’t have desires to grow in life. After winning, everybody knows that you’re a winner, but before winning, you’re the only one who knows that you’re a winner. Once you believe that you’re a winner, you develop all the qualities that are needed in the process of winning.


Life is like a mirror, it reflects the objects that you’re holding inside your mind through thoughts and mental images. We can say, life is the mirror of your thoughts and emotions. When you create new images and new thoughts in your mind, you find new ways of driving your life. In every moment, life gives us many chances to change our lives through different opportunities while most of us don’t understand this truth and travel before other things that have no role to achieve our goals.

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A Danish philosopher, Soren Kierkegaard once said,

“Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts.”

Remember, you’re a huge human magnet on this earth; you’ll always attract the same things into your life that you hold inside your mind, they may be people, situations, and resources. If you hold and replay the success images in your mind, you must attract successes into your life.

Your life delivers you the same things that you ask, believe, and receive; many things come into life from many different ways, but we don’t grab all the things. We accept life in the same way as our predominant thoughts and beliefs are, never beyond. When you change your thoughts, you will start changing your life with the same strengths of your beliefs and desires.

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Mindset: Your Thoughts Create Your World- Here’s How

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, either way, you are right.” – Henry Ford

There are two types of mindset. One is a positive mindset and another is a negative mindset. Creating a negative mindset or thoughts in the mind is like eating junk foods, and we know how junk foods are harmful to our bodies. Many junk foods don’t harm our body immediately but harm us slowly and internally without our knowledge when we take them repeatedly, and create many diseases for the future. Let’s start reading how your thoughts impact your life.


Dr. Joseph Murphy wrote:

“Infinite riches are all around you if you will open your mental eyes and behold the treasure house of infinity within you. There is a gold mine within you from which you can extract everything you need to live life gloriously, joyously, and abundantly.”

All negative thoughts are being created through negative mental images that you hold inside your mind through different sources. You can’t remove negative thoughts from your mind directly like we can throw away an object from one place to another because these things appear in physical form, but thoughts in the mind can’t be seen, you can only feel them. Hence, negative feelings can be deactivated through repeated positive mindsets and positive actions.

Through repetition of good and specific thoughts in mind, you can create new ideas, new plans, and new ways of working towards achieving your goals.


You can weaken the effectiveness of negative thoughts by shifting your negative thoughts to positive ones. See more possibilities in mind, think about your life on the positive side, and keep on adding more positive thoughts into the mind through positive mental pictures to make your thought garden of mind healthy and active, and this is always in your control; in this way, you can take control of your mind.

When you change your thoughts, you change your attitudes, you change your spoken words, you change your action habits and finally, you get changes in your outcomes.

While watching our favorite movies or listening to our favorite songs, we enjoy them because we are connecting our feelings with the same thought frequencies of those events of the movie or the music while watching or listening respectively. What we love, we keep on watching or listening to it several times, because the pictures or music replaying in the movie or songs are our thoughts and we love to bring them back several times to enjoy them. The thoughts here may be good or bad, but we still love them, and they become our predominant thoughts over time.

We are connecting our thought frequencies into the same thought frequencies of the movie or music while playing, and many times, we are feeling or placing ourselves in the same positions like we are the main role players of the events.

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An American new thought author, philosopher, and businessman, 

Charles Haanel said:

“The predominant thought or the mental attitude is the magnet, and the law is that like attracts like, consequently,  the mental attitude will invariably attract such conditions as corresponding to its nature.”

You can empower your inner superiority through your constructive thoughts and with a positive mindset. Plant the useful seeds of thoughts in mind; they will take root in their own time. Don’t worry, do your best and give careful attention to plant more positive thoughts in your mind. So, you should build a positive mindset to be successful.

The greatest weapon against your stress is creating more optimistic thoughts in your mind through consciously speaking, writing, visualizing more positive things, and doing positive actions on them.

Useless weeds are the part of the thought garden, they are the negative thoughts. They can’t harm your thought garden if you are attentively removing useless weeds every time they come into your knowledge. If you appreciate those useless weeds, they will start dominating the plants to downgrade them.


Dr. Joseph Murphy once said,

“Your subconscious mind does not argue with you. It accepts what your conscious mind decrees. If you say, “I can’t do it,” your subconscious mind works to make it true. Select a better thought. The decree, “I’ll buy it. I accept it in my mind.”

To manage your positive thoughts, you have to ignore negative thoughts if they are present. You get results that harmonize with your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Your inner thoughts, spoken words, and outside actions should be in harmony, they should not be in contradictions. Your life is the images of your predominant thoughts creating more positive thoughts to empower your life. Healthy thoughts produce more healthy and powerful thoughts for your life.

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What you believe subconsciously becomes the fact in the future, the time factor varies from person to person, but people get the things in their life that they think, feel and believe. When you replay a thought repeatedly in your mind over some time it becomes a fact today or afterward, it depends on the strength of your emotions on the thoughts. We don’t get life randomly; we create it through our thoughts and different emotions from time to time ahead. As you think and believe, you become. This is how your mindset effects your life.


A British philosophical writer James Allen wrote:

“Man is made or unmade by himself. In the armory of thought, he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself. He also fashions the tools with which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy, strength, and peace. By the right choice and true application of thought, man ascends to divine perfection. By the abuse and wrong application of thought, he descends below the level of the beast.”

When you alter your thoughts on people, situations, or anything you have with, you will see them in the same eyes and thoughts. With the same thoughts, you can’t change the situations when you have created them.

Influence your mind positively with the worthwhile thoughts of your desires; once your mind is convinced with great thoughts, nobody can stop you to achieve your goals and you can do the miracle.

You have to alter your thoughts to see the solutions. To get a changed life with success, happiness, and prosperity, you have to change your thoughts in the same direction. Changing thoughts and state of mind from one state to another is a personal task, and you can do it better every time in life. 


Success is completely impossible if you fail to develop a success mindset within you. It’s a conscious decision, and that depends on you in the whole process. Your unhealthy thoughts create depression, stress, disbelief, hatred, sadness, failure, ill-health, and many other negative emotions. Your healthy thoughts create love, faith, happiness, good health, success, prosperity, inner peace, and many other positive emotions that lead you to positive outcomes.


If your thoughts are driven by others, your mind is the slave of other people’s thoughts, and you can’t develop faith in yourself because you are mostly accepting other people’s opinions.

In reality, outside people can’t speak about what truly you can do in life. If you don’t know about yourself, how outside people will know about you? It’s your perception; now change your thinking and change your life to success and joyfulness. You have to create a belief for every task you want to do and succeed there; the seed of belief is the emotion that you create in your mind.

Your mind is a thought garden: Plants are positive thoughts and weeds are negative thoughts. Now ask yourself which thoughts among all thoughts in your mind are more valuable to build your successful life, and who can help you to resolve your problems.

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A German-born theoretical physicist and the winner of the 1921 Nobel Prize in Physics Albert Einstein observed:

“The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”

Your anger is the most destructive and negative emotion that always harms your life. When you become the master of your thoughts, you gather more powers to take control of your emotions. Managing thoughts is quite difficult but possible for people who have the inner consciousness of staying in harmony.

Your action follows your thoughts; as you think and believe, you do the same kinds of work to get the same kinds of results.

Make your mind disciplined through the positive thoughts you think, the positive words you speak, and the positive deeds you do to make your dreams fulfilled. Be honest with yourself and do every work that brings peace and inner joy.


One day, I met a successful person in an educational institute, and asked him about the real sense of success by his perception; he said, “success is what we get peace of mind by doing the things that are needed for achieving any objectives which we dream of.” We can only attain inner peace by doing such work which is truly honest work and good for people and society and your purpose must help others in positive ways. The people who work sincerely and help other people and society are considered as great work, and these people are revered by many people now and later on. 

Working with sincerity, love, and faith must fetch positive results. We must attain success if we sincerely do the work with a positive mindset and spirit. Your sincerity and love in your work help to create positive energies within your thought process and you get going with optimism, faith, hope, and lots of positive expectations.

The Power of Change: Find New Ways to Reach Your Goal


The power of change: People accept the changes when they decide to do something new and this new decision and new vision is the best source to get inspiration to do new things. People make changes in themselves when they face some challenges and difficulties in their work or their life. Read how a little change can make a big difference in your life.

“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.”

John F. Kennedy


The preeminent leader of the Indian independence movement Mahatma

Gandhi made this statement:

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”

If you don’t like your present outcomes; change your thoughts, decisions, and action plans, and change the ways of your workings – always prefer to change yourself. Change is essential in every step of life; you have to accept the changes from time to time to bring out the best outcomes. Change yourself; always accept the changes that come in your way if it is needed, sometimes you may have to take hard decisions that might be painful for the present timings.

The universe is always in change, everything changes its states and positions upon a time, hence, accept the changes to take better benefits of time.

The universe is always in change, people are always in change, situations are always in change, environments are always in change, and all the factors connected with our lives are always in change, so why don’t you? You can’t change the outside people because they aren’t in our control, but you can change yourself. Even you can’t change the outside situations as they aren’t in your control, but you can change yourself. Similarly, you can’t change the outside circumstances if they aren’t in your control, but you can change yourself.


A Scottish-American Industrialist, Business Magnate and Philanthropist, Andrew Carnegie stated it clearly when he said:

“You can’t push anyone up the ladder unless he is willing to climb himself.”

Everywhere you need to change yourself as it needs to; don’t fight with people, situations, and environments, while trying to change yourself and move on with your own pace, decisions, and determinations. Never try to change others, always change yourself from time to time; change your habits, change your attitudes, change your thoughts, change your decisions, change your associations and change the ways of your workings. You can make your decisions upon what has to be done at the right time.

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If you don’t like to change yourself, you can’t bring new successes into your life. What you are today with thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, and associations, might be needed to be changed upon a time.

Accept the changes and be the change according to situations and the people you are with. To grow and succeed, change is the most important factor and most people don’t accept the changes when something new happens in their life. People fear when they go through any changes, while wise people accept the changes and move ahead to grab new opportunities. You can’t change your life if you don’t accept the changes; you may need to change your thoughts, the people you’re present with, the attitudes you show to others, the habits you follow in your daily life and many other factors are attached with.


An American business magnate, philanthropist, and the co-founder, of Microsoft Bill Gates, once said:

We always overestimate the change that will occur in the next two years and underestimate the change that will occur in the next ten.

A student gives more attention to his studies when he thinks and decides to perform better in his exams. Here, his attention may go to playing any games or gossiping with his friends in his extra time, while a good student postpones all extra activities and focuses on his studies, putting in more time than he did in the past days.

This change happens, because he sets his goals and works on priorities for his studies. Likewise, any person can change himself into new thoughts, new habits, new action plans and associate with new people to get his work done.

Most people set higher goals, but they don’t love to change themselves; they don’t change their mindset, they don’t change their attitudes, they don’t change their associations and they don’t change their action habits.

If you don’t change yourself upon a time, the time and situations in the future may change you, and you mightn’t control them. Before anybody or any situation changes you, change yourself and learn how to adjust yourself in much situations-this wise decision always helps you. Most people fail to achieve their desired goals because they hesitate to accept the changes that come in their way.

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As Wayne Dyer once said,

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much you find each other, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.”

When you fail to change yourself, you will fail to change others because you don’t know what to do and how to do it to get the results. Changing yourself isn’t the lesson that you have to learn and speak to others; it is what you do for yourself and make many changes within you.

Creating Success needs “to be changed”; if you don’t accept the changes, you can’t attract the desired success.

Trying to change others is a waste of time because you can’t change others until others accept what you speak or do. Making little positive changes every day in you will bring many positive changes in life…


Focus on small changes in you every day to bring big changes upon a time; you can’t change fully to a new personality in one day, it takes time and you can do it when you consistently do the things with strong determination and positive efforts. Good habits aren’t formed in one day; it takes time and varies from person to person.

When you change yourself as required, you’ll find success in front of you. You can win yourself when you are in your control, and you can win to control your thoughts and actions. Always change yourself creating new self-esteem that can help to create a new life with new visions and hope. New life starts from your new thoughts and new dreams; they are the creator of your new life all the time.

You can’t change nature’s environment, you can’t change people, and you can’t change the outside circumstances but you can change yourself, you can adjust yourself according to situations and environments-always focus on yourself and be the change, and focus on improving your development activities.

Fix The Problems of Your Life Easily: Here’s How

Focus on Solutions; Not on Problems


As human beings, we all have some problems in our life, which might be small or big, but we all have the inner strength to resolve all the problems. So, here are the most effective ways to fix the problems of your life:


God has given us all the inner strengths needed to manage our lives; but most of us don’t understand our inner powers and strengths and we start blaming others, as well as we find weaknesses in people, and find the reasons why people don’t help us as per our expectations. 

The problems of your life can be resolved when you think to resolve them; once you make decisions with a positive mindset, you find new ways, new ideas, and new resources to get your work done.

When we understand and realize that we all have the essential qualities to resolve all of our problems and can drive our own lives well, we can then start doing the needful and can live a peaceful life. If you fail to find the solutions to fix your problems, you may find alternative ways which lead to your destiny.


If you travel on a road and find the road is closed somewhere ahead and there is no option to move on ahead on the same road. What do you do in this situation: Instantly you try to find alternative ways that are connecting your destination. You don’t waste time here, and you don’t complain because you don’t have control over this outside situation.

Making Complaints is a negative attitude towards others; you mainly find mistakes in others and hesitate to take your responsibilities. This mindset stops your further growth and advancements.

Always remember; never waste time on the outside if you don’t have control over them, might be the outside situations, outside people, or any circumstances. Give value to your time and manage them like you manage your finances. Before investing your money anywhere, or spending your money anywhere, you think many times about the best possibilities what might be done to manage your finances in the best ways.



As Stanley Arnold said:

Every problem contains within itself the seeds of its solution.

To resolve any problems, focus on your strengths, associate with the right people to get good and new ideas, find the right resources, ignore negative people, and put consistent actions to make your work possible. Many problems can be resolved through positive thinking, positive decisions, positive actions, positive attitudes, and gratefulness to others.

No problems can be resolved until your focus goes to solutions.

When you start thinking positives over any bad situations. you start getting new directions of finding the solutions or new ways of working-it is the matter of creating a new state of mind to get going.

If you don’t change your state of mind to positives, you can’t get new ideas to resolve your problems. The problems are the same; you need to handle them with new thoughts, new ideas, and new action plans- you may need to associate with new people to get your work done.


A German-born theoretical physicist and the winner of the 1921 Nobel

Prize in Physics Albert Einstein observed:

The significant problems we face can not be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.

No problem can exist for a long time, but you can see the higher effectiveness of some problems, they might create some problems temporarily for a certain period. People don’t resolve their problems because they don’t want to change their state of mind to positives, they always hold the same thoughts that were with them in the past.

No problems are permanent, they are all short spans and can stay with us for a short time, but we make them long span and hold for long-term when we always think about them and make them our predominant thoughts.

Other reasons are, they don’t love to change their associations to new ones; and with the old associations, you are continuously getting access with the same people where you do the same discussions with them and you get the same ideas and thoughts from them.


Nobody is born with success or failure, the person makes his life as his thoughts and beliefs become and this set of beliefs can be changed at any time to any new directions as per his choices and desires. You can never go beyond your thoughts and beliefs.

In life, if you find that some people create problems in your way, some situations hold you back or some circumstances don’t give chance to do the right things to fulfill your dreams, what you should do in your daily life to win over your own life and lead a purpose-driven life. Don’t focus on problems, always focus on solutions and find new ways to proceed with.

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To resolve any problem, find the positive possibilities in mind before getting them on the outside. If you can imagine good things in mind, you can create them in real life.

Every problem has solutions that could be drawn in many different ways, it matters how you do the things to get it done. Never go with emotions, only do the right things at the right time to get better results in your existing and upcoming tasks.


You will find different problems in every part of your life; different states of living will have different kinds of problems. It may be a financial problem, it may be a health problem, it may be a family problem, or it may be a professional problem, and so on. When you fix one problem, another may come up on your site; it’s natural because it’s a human life.

Problems, difficulties, adversities, and failures are not bad for life, and they automatically come in your way when you do new things, but they become worst if you don’t learn from them. When you learn from them, they become your great teachers and direction indicators.

Every person in the world goes through some problems. It might be a small one or big, every problem has some solutions and you have to search for it. And every problem gives chance to explore new possibilities and direct you towards finding new opportunities.


Your subconscious mind knows the answer to all of your problems; consciously do every action that brings inner peace. If you don’t know the solutions, your subconscious mind will guide you on what to do about the problem. Always stay with positive thoughts and ask yourself continuously what has to be done to get the solutions-your mind may suggest you take suggestions from the right people to do the needful.

God has given us all the requisite powers to resolve all of our problems, but most of us don’t realize these powers within us and search for the solutions asking others many times in life.

Be alert to receive different positive commands and the ways towards the solutions from your mind those which are needful to our concerned problems. If you find the solutions or new ways to get going, you must get the needful on time, so be patient and strong-willed.


Ask yourself what are things holding you back, and why?

Do you have any solutions for the problems? If not, find alternative ways through which you can reach your goals. Don’t stop moving anyhow you veto keep moving. you can’t solve a problem by thinking of more problems in mind.

No problems can be resolved with a negative mindset; it needs a positive mindset to find the solutions. When you change your mind into positives, you connect with the right things to get solutions.

A positive mindset can find ways and solve problems, while a negative mindset can never do this task. But most people do the opposite; they become more negative and sad when they meet some problems and difficulties and lose their hope, and blame their life in different ways.


Your mind is a thought creator machine, it creates thousands of thoughts per day. Now you decide what kind of thoughts you want to create in the next moments, good or bad, problems or solutions.

The same situations create different mindsets in different people due to different ways of thinking and perceptions. When problems come into our lives, some of us try to resolve them who are positives,

Some of us ignore those who don’t make any decisions and some of us who are negative try to make them bigger than what the problems are. Many times, people make the problems bigger in mind through different thoughts than what the problems are; in this way, people get irritation, distressed, disappointment, and frustration.

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Time Is Running Out: Learn How You Can Manage it Effectively


In the whole life span, most of us spend time unproductively for the present gratifications-focusing on the present life. When you think of success, you’ve to think of proper management of time, because time delivers you everything, may be success or failure-it matters how and where you manage it.


As Alan Lakein once said:

“Time = Life; therefore, waste your time and waste your life, or master your time and master your life.”

Set your goals that inspire you and act on them persistently and consistently-clearly see the goals in mind. Clarıty impresses your subconscious mind. A clear vision is that, you see the goals clearly in your mind, you have 100 percent faith in yourself, and you devote your time to make your dreams come true. If you waste your valuable time doing many activities that aren’t connected with your goals, you mayn’t reach your goal on time.

Everybody has 24 hours; the people with clear visions use their time properly in right ways, work with right opportunities and get better productivity of their life, while those people who have no clear visions and goals, they always waste their time by doing the things that have no directions, they spend their life mostly focusing on present eratifications and finally they don’t achieve their goals. Successful people grow big because they know where they are going in life. It needs self confirmation.


Wasting time has many different ways, we have unlimited ways to waste our time, but we have specific ways to use our time according to our goal setting plans. When you think of achieving your goals, you start managing your time to get better productivity. Everything that you do with strong faith, love and passion has the strength to get it achieved.

The primary reason to waste the time is unclear goals and indiscipline. When we do things randomly, we get results aimlessly.

Time management is life management; manage your time in different ways to get better productivity. Everybody has 24 hours but the people who succeed in life are the people who manage their time towards achieving their goals – these people do every action linked with their goals. If you don’t know how to manage your time that means you don’t have clear goals; and with unclear goals, you can’t manage your time well, and in this way, you waste most of your time in different ways unproductively and delay the achieving process.


If you waste today’s time in the wrong ways, you can’t get it back again, because it’s gone and it has no value towards building your life. The worthwhile use of time today is the best judgement and everybody should take the best benefits of their present times to build their future.

Today’s time is the best chance to build your future; time gives everything that we need from it, but most of us don’t take the best benefits out of it because of a lack of clear visions and goals. We become aware when we understand what exactly we want in life and what we should do to get them achieved.

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You can’t use your time effectively until you are clear about your purposes and goals.

No success comes into life by chance, we have to create it. Those people who only believe in luck and do nothing for their goals, they don’t achieve their goals, while they only wait for their good times. Good times come when we do good deeds with clear visions and goals. In a cultivating land, how can you get the crops without planting the seeds into it? Before reaping, you’ve to sow the seeds of the plants and then the plants grow up and deliver the flowers and fruit crops as they are..


Don’t expect any outcomes if you don’t do anything for it; this kind of expectation causes depression and sadness. Do the work as much as you can do for your goals and do every work with specific plans, and hope for the positive outcomes, and then the things build up well. Good inputs always deliver good outcomes; this universal truth can’t be changed and with this hope, do your best in your work.

People who succeed who understand the usefulness of their time through proper goal setting plans. A written set of goal plans saves your time from wasting.

Time mystery is life mystery; manage your time meaningfully keeping your goals in the front. Make yourself busy by doing the works that are connected with your long-term visions and goals. Don’t waste your time on many activities in the whole day if they aren’t connected with your goals. Time is the same for everybody, and it’s always 24 hours. It matters how you use it meaningfully to build your dreams or spend it to create your life.


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If you don’t have clear goals, you’ll waste most of your time here and there without productivity and results. Set your goals and work with priorities, and manage your time accordingly. Set your whole day plans how you want to spend your time in the day; divide your time into different activities that are connected with your goals.

If you don’t know how to manage your time that means you didn’t set your goals with proper plans.

If you don’t manage your time with setting goals, you can’t work for success. If you spend most of your time here and there unproductively, you may not achieve your goals on time. In the whole span of life, most of us waste most of our valuable time doing things without directions, and we waste many days, many weeks, many months, and many years unproductively.

If you don’t have control on your time management, you’ll have no control over your life. Always spend your time to live your dreams, always put your time towards working for your dreams.


You can’t reach your goal if you do other activities rather than doing the right things for your goals. During the whole day, we do many activities, and most of the activities aren’t normally connected with our goals, so we delay our own successes. For the reasons of delaying the process of success, most people give up their work when they don’t get their work done on time.

The proper use of time with fixed goal plans and determination brings out many positive outcomes because you know where you are going, and you understand well the value of time, how and where to spend it.

Everybody is responsible for their own delays, because they don’t do the right things at the right time or they don’t do things on a priority basis. Most people don’t achieve their goals because they don’t know how to set their goals and they have no clear visions, and they manage their time by doing things aimlessly. When you do the thing directions, you also get the outcomes without directions.

How Self-Awareness Can Make a Great Impact on Your Life

When you think confidently, you develop your self-belief and a courageous sense of self-awareness develops within you. Confidence is the product of faith and that could be made capable with determination and clear visions. Without belief, you are blindly doing all the work because you don’t have experience with its results. Working without knowing the results signifies that you are working without definite dreams.


Marie Curie said it well:

“Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing at whatever cost, must be attained.

Your clear visions can strengthen your belief in the journey to bring more good outcomes. You can’t achieve the objectives in the real world if you fail to achieve them in your thoughts and feelings with your strong belief. For every success you attain, you achieve them in your mind at the beginning; afterward, you gather the powers to make them real. The creation of good thoughts within your mind is the most important responsibility to bring a prosperous life.


What you think about yourself is your self-esteem; don’t think about others, what others think about you; many times, others’ thoughts are invalid and worthless to your life. If you are thinking negatively about yourself, your predominant thoughts become pessimistic and you accept your life in the same direction. When you change your thoughts, you give new directions to your life with new visions and new hope. Your life can’t be interrupted by others’ thoughts and spoken words, hence, be a strong-hearted person to handle all odd situations in life.

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The 16th President of the United States Abraham Lincoln once said,

“You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.

Your beliefs and positive visualization will attract the things into your life that must fulfill all your desires if you believe; you can move mountains because belief has the strength to make it happen.

Forget about others, you can’t control others except yourself. Most people try to control others so that they live with lots of stress and unhappiness.

You can’t control others except you, like, do you have controls on others’ vehicles that are running on the roads except for the control with the vehicle you’re driving. If you’ll try to control others, most of the time you’ll fail, while if you try to control yourself, you must succeed, maybe after failing a few attempts. You can’t change others but you can change yourself; others’ mightn’t be in your control, but you are always in your control. Understand this truth and move on to achieve your goals.


Soichiro Honda, Founder of Honda Motor Corporation, said it clearly:

“Success is 99 percent failure.”

Failure is the express highway towards success, from every failure you must learn, this attitude must help you to grow; if you don’t learn from your failures, you’ll make the same kinds of mistakes in the future.

If you don’t like to meet failures and challenges, you can never reach the success you desire.

Adversity is a great teacher because you learn many things from bad times, and this time pushes you to do many new things towards your growth and prosperity. People feel discomfort in bad times, while this time opens new doors to greatness, and you get new opportunities to explore your life; it matters whether you accept the new opportunity or not.


Daniel Goleman, an author, psychologist, and science journalist write:

If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.

We install anti-virus software in our computers to protect from viruses and other harmful things that might harm our computers; but to protect our dreams in mind, what we do. Add more positive thoughts to protect your mind, develop the self-discipline to protect your dreams, and build more dreams to create a healthy life. If you want to be tremendous, build big dreams. A big future can only be possible with big dreams.

Without self-awareness, you might fail to do many important tasks at the right time, you might miss out on many good opportunities and you might overlook associating with the right people at the right time.

If you want to get real success in life, always change and manage yourself in every situation that comes your way. With positive intentions, you can overcome many situations unknowingly.

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Paul J. Meyer once said:

Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort.”

Every successful person is a big dreamer; like oxygen for living beings; without dreams, dreamers never spend their time. Without dreams, a person lives without getting the directions of life. No living being can live without oxygen, likewise, dreamers or successful people can’t live without dreams, because the dream is the greatest inspiration to life. Keeping your life’s important purposes in mind and doing the work to fulfill them, you can overcome many difficult situations in life. Without a definiteness of purpose, you can’t do your work with passion and a good spirit.


We give regular and essential foods to our body to make ourselves healthy living, but we forget to give the right food to our mind periodically-a very few people have awareness of this. We don’t forget to take breakfast, lunch, and dinner. We eat it on time because we feel hungry at that time; while thinking about our minds, we don’t give essential food to our mind because most of us aren’t hungry to attain new successes and fulfill new dreams.

First focus on developing reading habits that is essential to get motivation and they must improve your mindset to take good decisions in life.

A good and strong decision can be taken on any task when a good idea comes into mind; we miss out on many good ideas in our daily life because most of us don’t have specific dreams and goals to achieve so that we don’t have strong attention to grab the right things at the right time.


For every question you have, you can get clarity from your mind-

keep on asking the queries until you get the answers from your inner conscience. Nobody can resolve your problems better than you can-

you know all the answers to your queries, and you get the answers when you ask yourself honestly. You’re the best motivator and advisor to your own life towards every work you do today or tomorrow. If you don’t accept that you are the best person in your own life, you can never do any great work in your life.

Your Habits Determine Your Future : How You Can Build Successful Habits

What is a habit? 

It is when we do certain activities repeatedly over some time and then they become automatic and easy to do afterward. If you want to give up your old habits and create some new habits, first of all, give up your old habits and replace them with new habits. Bad habits are always bad for your present and future life and they may have negative influences on others in your surroundings. Hence, stay away from bad habits and develop good habits.

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” -Aristotle


An American inspirational author and Founder of SUCCESS Magazine,

Orison Swett Marden once said:

“The beginning of a habit is like an invisible thread, but every time we repeat the act we strengthen the strand, add to it another filament until it becomes a great cable and binds us irrevocably, thought and act.”

Good habits are your best friends, while bad habits are your worst enemies; it’s up to you what you opt for in your life. You can’t stay a long time comfortably with your bad habits Because many bad habits unknowingly harm your life in the long term that mightn’t be found in today’s life.

Giving up old habits is sometimes more difficult, most people say, they can’t give up their old habits, because these are possible; are all difficult and not possible, but they didn’t think that this was possible, because they didn’t try to give up the old ones. If you don’t change your habits, you can’t change your daily living to work with a new set of goals. It needs strong decisions and persistent actions to form new habits.

Now start doing your new activities for the next 30 days, and give up your old habits convincingly that these habits are no longer active with me. My old habits are not part of my goal plans, and I must start doing the things that must help me to prosper and achieve my goals. When you do new activities daily with determination, they become auto habits and there is no need to remember them again because they have been conceived in your subconscious mind. Starting a journey with new habits is difficult, but these good habits must help you to achieve many objectives in life.

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An American author in the area of the new thought movement Napoleon

Hill once said:

“Until you have formed the habit of looking for the good instead of the bad there is in others, you will be neither successful nor happy.”

Your life follows your predominant thoughts, and predominant thoughts can’t be built up in one day, they take several days or longer periods to grow and create their empires in your thought process when you do certain things repetitively over some time.

If you decide to become successful in life, and want to achieve many things, or want to help many people in the society; first, change your thoughts, change your attitudes, change your habits, change your spoken words and change the ways of your actions.

When you do certain activities repetitively over a period they become your habits and your predominant thought will be the same and your life follows them. When you change your actions, you also change your habits afterward and you create the same kind of mindset to proceed further.


No habit is permanent, you can change your present habits to new and good habits once you take strong decisions to achieve your new goals, and these goals must be good to you and others as well.

Read hundreds of books on success and achievements; self-help, personal improvements, motivation and inspiration, and success; anyhow you need to change your state of mind and develop a success

mindset. Until you change your state of mind to success consciousness, you can’t work for success wholeheartedly. To grow faster, you need to learn many things from other successful people-be teachable; you can read biographies of successful people. From their life, you can understand many things.

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Stephen R. Covey, an American educator, author, businessman, and keynote speaker wrote:

“You are not your habits. You can replace old patterns of self-defeating behavior with new patterns, new habits of effectiveness, happiness, and trust-based relationships. With genuine caring, I encourage you to open the gate of change and growth.”

You can’t pick the right things on the outside if you don’t have the same thoughts in your mind. Developing a new habit may not be possible in a short period, it takes time and varies from person to person. It is possible when you repeatedly do the things over some time. You can change your present habits into meaningful directions when you start doing things with clear goals. When you stay away from your comfort zone, you build a Winning habit for the upcoming success.

You can only build your future when you change your habits; your repeated actions shape your habits, and your repeated habits decide your character, and when you reach your destiny with the same strengths as you build yourself.

Sometimes bad circumstances and negative people create some situations on your path to disturb your state of mind on the way to success. In these situations, don’t make a swift decision to quit your achievement process even though it is painful and difficult.

Like creating dreams, you must know how to protect your dreams from negative people and circumstances.

Do four steps daily to strengthen your dreams:

Prepare a list of your dreams-what exactly what you want in life.

Write your dreams and goals daily in your dream book with deadlines, and action plans:


a) Write your dreams in your dream book

Write your dreams in your dream book and write them in the present tense because your subconscious mind only understands in the present tense, it doesn’t understand the past or future. Feel positive about your dreams and visualize that you are now living with your dreams. Why do you need this confirmation before attainment, because you’ll need lots of effort to make your dreams come true, and for this reason, you must have felt an achievable success before it’s achieved? Who will work for your success, the answer is, nobody but only you? Many people might support you, but you are the leading role player in your success journey.

b) Put a Deadline on your Dream

Dream plus deadline becomes your goal, eIse your dream is only a wishful thought and it has no existence and power. Put your goals on paper and make plans to achieve them. Until you set your goals, you can’t manage your time in the right ways. Your success is nothing but your achievable goals.

c) Find the Reasons Why do you want to achieve your Dreams; Why?

Find the emotional reasons for your dreams, and then it would be easy to do the things to get it done. Many difficulties, setbacks, and challenges might come your way, but you can overcome them if you have strong reasons for your dreams. You don’t care what is happening on the outside because of emotional reasons, and your focus goes to concentrate on your work.

A weak desire can’t make you successful: you need a strong burning desire to get success in life. Most people fail in life because of weak desires, weak faith, weak decisions, and weak action plans, they don’t take strong decisions and don’t set goals because they don’t have strong reasons to achieve anything. Find the strong reasons why you want to achieve a big success in life. If the reason is clear and strong, that means, why is clear and strong: then how is it easy, that means, you can find the ways how to do it?

In the winter, early morning, when somebody goes outside for a morning walk, he may feel uncomfortable because of intense fog, cold, and moisture, but these outside effects can’t affect the person mentally if the person has the burning desire of doing the exercises for maintaining a healthy body. People find many excuses when they don’t have burning desires. You need a strong desire to overcome many difficulties and setbacks, and the people with clear visions grow much bigger and faster than the people with no clear visions.

d) Then How? Action Plans

Organize the list of your goals into plans and take immediate action on your plans. Write the action plans in 5-10 lines that motivate you to move on – write the detailed plans needed in the process. What you should do so that you can achieve your goals: When you get new ideas and knowledge upon a time from other or different sources, you can then update or modify your goal plans to new ones so that you can become more productive with these new ideas.


An American radio personality, reputed speaker, and author, Earl

Nightingale once said:

“All you need is a plan, the road map, and the courage to press on to your destination.”

Always update or modify your goal plans to make your work more efficient and productive. If you don’t update or modify your goal plans periodically, that means, you aren’t single-mindedly working for your goals, and the results you’ll draw upon a time with the old plans mightn’t be very attractive towards excellent performances. Always follow the changes and be the change to perform outstandingly. You shouldn’t be the same person now with the same qualities as before.

Good habits are like depositing money in your savings account and you want to grow and prosper in the future, while bad habits are like repeatedly withdrawing money from your existing bank balance, this mindset doesn’t connect you to a secured life ahead.

Always change yourself with the needful qualities and find yourself as a new you every time ahead. If you always focus on your main activities and improve yourself over time, you are the true winner of your life.

Do You Have Passion and Love for What You Do?


Passion is when you put more effort into something than is necessary to do it. It is more than just enthusiasm or feeling, passion is a hunger that seems in action. Passion is when you do something without being bored; when you enjoy the whole process of your journey.

So, Here Are The Five Most Important Points On Why Passion Is Important in Your Life:


Winston Churchill once said that success is continuously going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.

One day motivation can’t make sense, it disappears afterward, we need daily motivation and inspiration, and it can only be possible when we will have certain objectives to achieve and we love what we do.

If you have a passion for doing any work, you are placing yourself in the winners’ position, and you must win the game of life. Have passion in every work you do.

Every successful person has a great passion for doing their work because they do their work visualizing the results in mind. They see the successes in their minds before attainments; that is the reason, they become enthusiastic about their works. You feel tired in the process of success if you don’t see the possibilities that might happen in a positive direction.


Ralph Waldo Emerson said it well:

“Nothing great is ever achieved without enthusiasm”.

Most people say, they are always busy doing different things, but if they are checking themselves, somewhere they are spending some time unknowingly which aren’t part of their goals. It doesn’t matter what you are doing in the whole day, but the worthwhile thing is how much time you use for building your dreams.

Respond to your life with enthusiasm; when you accept your life for what you are, you get going with your strong conviction because enthusiasm moves the world.

Doing many things in the whole day doesn’t mean you’ll become successful; the only people who become successful in life learn and improve themselves every time and use their time to work for their goals. They’re single-minded and focused on their goals, and they don’t love to waste their time for present gratifications. When they achieve one dream, soon after they find many others, and work for them one after another. Successful people know the value of dreams and how dreams are helpful to build a successful life.

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An American New Thought author, Charles Haanel once said:

“To acquire love… fill yourself up with it until you become a magnet.”

Some people might influence you negatively, but they can’t obstruct your pathways if you are determined, dedicated, and focused on your goals. God puts some temporary challenges on human life for learning many new things that are needed for future life. If you’re determined and focused, no challenges can stop your motion to reach your goals. If you love what you do and have a passion for doing your work, you’re very close to your achievable goals.

Love overcomes fears and all uncertainties in life: when you love yourself, you connect with God’s power, and God’s power never fails because love is God.

Love and faith are the powerful positive emotions and best combinations that help you to activate other powers wIthin you. If

you don’t love what you do and you don’t have faith in yourself, you’ll never succeed in life. Most people fail in life because they don’t have clear visions and goals, they don’t love what they do, they don’t have passion for doing things and they don’t have strong beliefs in them, these are the primary reasons to interrupt their motion. Faith and love are the strongest powers within us that help us to enable other powers to show their productivity and efficiency.


What are your five important goals in life right now? Visualize yourself where you want to be in the next five years, 10 years, these kinds of clarity enhance your performances and you do more work passionately. People do things passionately and with love when they know what they are going to do, and what they are going to become in any certain period.

Love what you do, and do what you love; the power of love makes things possible because it creates faith with the same strength.

Hold the mental pictures of victory in mind in the manner you place yourself at the top and you have achieved that success. The subconscious mind doesn’t understand whether it is real or imaginary, it responds to your thoughts and feelings that are emotional to your life and you believe in them.


A French-German theologian, organist, philosopher, physician and the winner of 1952 Nobel Peace Prize Albert Schweitzer once said:

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing. you will be successful.”

We get motivation from clear visions and goals, but long-term dreams motivate us more effectively than the short-term. If your short-term goals are part of your long-term goal, then working for short-term goals is quite inspiring and motivating. You can work for short-term goals passionately if these goals are the best part of your long-term goals. Only short-term goals can’t motivate you as much as a long-term goal can, hence long-term goals have more power to motivate you towards working the best.

Love your work and do what you love to do, this enthusiasm enables your hidden talents into powerful actions to transform all your dreams into realities.

Belief is directly proportional to love; both are directly proportional to each other; one can’t live without the other. If you believe in something, you must get it one day, the period varies from person to person. Until you believe in your work, you can’t succeed.

Thank you. I hope you have got your passion and you are working hard to achieve mastery; to achieve success.

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Do You Feel Insecure Because You Don’t Have a Girlfriend?


It’s okay to have no girlfriend. You don’t need to feel bad for not having a girlfriend in your life. If there were a championship in the world, & there was a crown for the prize, that in this world who invents the stupidest things. We guys rank in first there. Because we create all the pointless attachments, dumb bullshit & add all our ego, pride into it. We add our self-worth & self-esteem into it. We make it far too complicated & finally we screw ourselves. We don’t just deserve the award, we created it for ourselves & we are abusing ourselves.

Why You Don’t Have a Girlfriend in Your Life?

It can be because of 3 or 4 reasons.

1. You couldn’t get/woo one.
2. You don’t want one. Okay.
3. Or maybe you didn’t focus on it.
The fact is that You couldn’t woo one. You try but can’t woo one. But instead, you find out 5 more deep meanings behind it due to which you invent shame in yourself. After seeing someone’s gf, you are feeling unhappy. Again you see one’s gf, again you are sad. In your opinion what is a girlfriend? You are seeing a girl as if it has become a commodity. It does not even love. It is not that you want a support system in your life. It’s not mature thinking. You know, you should think like, ‘I need companionship.’                 
But no, what you’re doing is, ‘I want a girlfriend, a tag, a label.’ It is an awful race. You think that everyone has got a girlfriend, they are cool. It is just a point of showing off your “being cool” factor.

Now let’s come to the point directly.

What’s the point?

Girlfriend ?? What is a Girlfriend?

Moron !! Is it jewelry or something… We are talking about a girl, a human being. No one focuses on that. You don’t think about what kind of Girlfriend I should get? Ask this question to yourself if you want the answer.
Ask yourself, ‘What kind of person will I bring into my life?’
‘Whom I will give the control of my life, emotional control of my life, giving my precious time, in fact too much of it.’ Yes, you are giving her the right. The right to hurt you emotionally. They can. I am not saying that they will. But it’s a kind of agreement in that relationship. You give them a dangerous power, that if they want, they can break your relationship. They can crush & throw away your heart & feelings.

You get it. Do you?
So for just 5 seconds, you should not think that I shouldn’t get a girlfriend. But think if you enter into a relationship, or date a person, you should try to think about what kind of person, should it be. Because you are giving them a kind of power over half of your life, your time, your effort, and a lot of things.
You are giving them control. This person can destroy your whole day. This person can harm your mental state. They can give you a lot of stress & suffering.
Right. Because now you don’t even know who the person truly is because you are single. So, they are a sort of vacuum.
I am not saying that all the girls do that.
I am not saying that at all. Girls should think about the same thing. I would assume so, Right.
Because it’s a matter of commonsense. Because if you are making someone your life partner then you should at least think for some time.

But, Noo!!
You just want a girl !!!! Because you are the kind of person who wants to win the race. It’s a kind of being qualifying for being a man.

What is the Symbol of a Man?

Bullshiting around, Smoking Even getting drunk, screwing around with girls, Typing college bullshit, stupidity. Is it? This is stupid teenage thinking, from age 20 to 28 in the minds of people in our generation especially.

What is a man?
He who drinks flirts around, hangs out. We are four friends, We often even enter into fights. We even fool around with girls. We don’t even respect the girls. On the phone we even show off before our friends.” Why did you call ?”. Don’t we?
What do you get from it?
Even the guy who shows off on his phone later says sorry to the girl at night. Trust me if the girl kicks you away once, for nearly 5 months, your life will shatter into pieces.
This style of showing off as a Hero that we guys have. What’s the point of it?

First Point:

Ask yourself this question. I want a girlfriend, but why do you want a girlfriend? Just reason with yourself. Just give one reason to yourself.
For sex, is it? ok. For s*x, let’s evaluate it.
Most people will answer this. That I want to have s*x. This is the biggest answer of most people. That I want to indulge in s*x with a girl. Whenever I want.
Now, let’s weigh it out. Your need is s*x. That is nearly the most of it. okay.

What do you get after that?
A person who can control your entire life, kind of to that extent that even you will fail to do. By control, it doesn’t mean to direct your life. That you will do this or do that, this will be your hairstyle, etc. But they will have the same power that a movie director has to direct the movie the way they want it to. Your life will be directed the same way. Now how that person will use that power depends on that person. But you should understand that both of the things don’t have any justification at all. Both the sides don’t balance out each other. That I want sex, so, I will give my life for her.

Let’s Go to the Second Point:

You want a girlfriend because when you go to the mall, you should have a girl at your side. Because you have an inferiority complex when you go to the mall & you see couples. These are the small things that you covet.
When you see a girl with her boyfriend in malls, having dinners, in hotels, in restaurants, you feel jealous because you don’t have a girl in your life.

You Have Created a picture in Your Mind

Okay, bro? What does that mean?
What do you want in life? You see an image from afar. You don’t even know 1% of their lives. That is an image.
Just like a picture. You just want to enter into that picture. Because the picture looks beautiful from afar. Bro, be realistic and practical in your life to some extent, then you will accept that looks are deceptive. All that glitters is not gold.

Do you get it, my brother?

I am giving you great advice. You should see all that is going on around you & move forward in life. This nuisance of running behind things is foolish.

But you will say, ‘My friend has a girlfriend.’ Just try to visualize this in long term. Do you even see that how many boys are crying? how many have been dumped by girls? They are in depression and stress. They can’t even work. Their lives get destroyed. They lose their jobs, their colleges. You have already heard these stories. Why don’t you consider those images, my brother? Why are you so biased on one side? That I feel sad when I see couples in the evening. I feel that I should also have a girlfriend. All about sex.
It’s all about s*x. You are creating all your layers around it. I want a lot of things, but I want to have s*x mainly.
s*x is right. S*x drives us, it is a biological urge. But while asking for s*x, don’t screw your own life. What you are doing is that you are getting horny about it. You are getting irrational about it. You are not thinking straight, you work because of that lust.
You become an animal, in a sense. If someone maps down your intelligence to see what you employ in your mind, they will see you have the same level of intelligence as that of a puppy.

What Happens When a girl Smiles?

That’s what I mean. You are not even using your brain. You are thinking that any girl will do. Any girl who smiles, you fall for her. You have become stupid. There is no sense in what you are doing. That is why our friends suggest that stay away from her. Still, we don’t get it. Because she replies.

The girl who is merely replying to you, replying to your fucking text. She seems like a goddess on that level & we nearly go mad.

My brother, try to understand some things in life. I can not make you feel some things.
No one can make you feel some things like
that you feel the urge of sex.
But what I say will enter your mind, that is why I am focusing there. Because I can’t tell you how to control that urge and how to evaluate it. Trust me, it won’t decrease. Let’s be fucking honest. The want of having sex is a biological urge. There is no pill in this world, there is no procedure and what exists will harm your health. So, I won’t recommend it. Naturally, you can’t do it.

But use your brain. You can focus on the goals in your life. You can think long-term & you can even avert a disaster.

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